How to Live a Better Life: 10 Simple Tips on How to Become Happier
Few people get up in the morning and think, “I’m going to have a bad day today.” But sometimes our days can feel so challenging that we find ourselves wishing for anything else. That’s where personal development strategies come in! Personal development is about learning new skills, adopting better habits, and being more productive. It’s not always easy to make time for personal development when you’re busy taking care of kids or working long hours. But when you do make the time, it will pay off in many ways - especially when it comes to your happiness levels. Here are some strategies for developing yourself.
We all want to be happy
Do you ever feel like there are so many negative things in your life and you can’t seem to find any peace? Maybe you’re feeling like you want out of a relationship, or maybe you feel like you don’t have any friends. It turns out that feeling negative about your life isn’t exactly surprising. But what if you stopped blaming others and started thinking about what you can do about it? According to a study published in the journal Nature, you could increase your positive emotions, productivity, and social connectedness by simply thinking about how happy you want to be. Try to notice times in your day when you feel your emotions and intentions shifting to a more positive feeling. Notice when you feel like you’re becoming more positive and find ways to do more of that throughout your day.
How to Live a Better Life
Break big tasks into smaller ones. Some days I feel so overwhelmed by my to-do list that I decide I don’t care about making progress. I’d rather try to finish some small task, like vacuuming the living room, than move on to the next item on my list, like making dinner. I think that’s why our minds are so addicted to our checklists. There’s something to be said for sitting down and crossing off a bunch of tasks in a single sitting. But there’s also something to be said for pushing past those “checklist-mania” feelings and knowing that the bigger goals will just have to wait until tomorrow. Pick one or two tasks to tackle right now. Pick a project, like cleaning the living room or organizing your closet.
Discover your interests and passions
Let’s say you’re not sure what you enjoy doing. Instead of panicking about being bored, consider what you’re good at and what you enjoy learning. If you know you enjoy writing, consider joining a creative writing group to expand your knowledge and practice writing. Learn to say no Sometimes we’re so busy and overcommitted, it’s hard to say no when someone invites us out. But learning to say no can have a positive effect on your day. And after you learn to say no, you will have a much easier time saying yes. When you practice saying no, you will get a better understanding of what it’s like to take some time off and be alone. When you’re done practicing saying no, you can find friends and family who appreciate your time.
First, find a person who you can speak frankly to without embarrassment or shame. For me, that person is my therapist. This allows me to discuss anything with her without having to worry about the judgment or possible judgment by others. It allows me to have a safe place to be vulnerable and transparent. In your own life, perhaps someone you know could be a good sounding board. Or, you might even ask your significant other or best friend for help. There is nothing wrong with needing help and support in your journey to be a happier person. Self-compassion involves understanding and accepting yourself as you are. Self-awareness can be a powerful tool for personal development and something many people fail to do.
Get rid of negative self-talk
In the moment, we may feel like we are entirely at fault for whatever is going wrong. We are angry, sad, frustrated, and exhausted and these emotions are the things that tend to keep us stuck in our moods. These negative thoughts, though, can end up sabotaging your life. When you recognize them, though, it will be easier to address them and give them up. Instead of saying to yourself: “I suck at life,” say “It’s great to be alive.” Say “I’m making progress.” Say, “I’m grateful I am even here.” And just for good measure, say “I will have a better day tomorrow.” And if these aren’t the things that are going to keep you going, then you’ll have to find another way to deal with negative self-talk. Find more time It’s very easy to fill all of our time with work and responsibilities.
Learn how to say no
When you are young, your world seems so large. You can only see a small area around you, and you can always dream of far-away places. That’s why we often start out saying “yes” to everything. We worry that our friends might not be comfortable with us saying no and it’s nice to be wanted. The problem is, what happens when all the other people around us start saying “yes” to every invitation? Eventually, you start saying “no” more often than “yes”. Soon, you find yourself saying “yes” to everything, because saying “no” is very scary. Saying “yes” to everything means you don’t have the time to invest in the things you really care about. Your list of dreams becomes too big, and your list of obligations becomes too small.
Stop comparing yourself to others
How many of you are constantly comparing your life to others? Or what you have, versus what others have? Or what your job is, versus what others do? Do you wake up every morning thinking, “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I have the life I see others having? Why do I still have to work this job? Why am I so tired all the time? Why do I feel unhappy all the time?” You may never have had to think about this before, but if you do think about it at all, it’s time to stop thinking this way. We live in a world where people want you to do everything for them. If you want to go out on a date, you’re supposed to say “yes,” even if you really want to do something else. You’re supposed to say “yes,” even when your kids have no clean socks and no clean underwear.
Find support for your goals or habits
You’ve heard it before: “I hate failure.” But as long as you don’t wallow in negativity, we suggest you remind yourself that failure is not the end of the world. Instead of looking at the failure as a deterrent to your personal development, use it as an opportunity to reflect on what you can do differently next time. Make a list of the people in your life you want to support you and the habits you want to adopt. See if you can reach out to one of them. If you aren’t sure where to start, start with your family. Most parents have supported or encouraged their kids to set and achieve goals. They may even have ideas about how you can get started. If you don’t know what to say, this tip from blogger Katie Folan may be helpful.
Make time for yourself and do what makes you happy
While this sounds easy, it can be a challenge to carve out time for yourself, even if you have a full schedule. Start by making your bed in the morning and closing the blinds. By doing this, you’re telling yourself you’ve done a good job in the day and that you’re worthy of some extra time for yourself. Let go of material possessions and create a “less is more” mentality If you’re someone who has a lot of possessions, this could be a hard transition, but it’s worth it to become more conscious about your life and possessions. Don’t get sucked into the buying cycle, where you buy material things to fill a hole inside of you. Once you start thinking about lessening the amount of stuff you own, you can apply this to your time as well.
Remember that happiness is a journey
Even though happiness is a state of being, the habits you develop during this journey will impact how you live your life, and what you consider to be a good or a bad day. Because happiness is a continuous, lifelong process, you can’t expect it to arrive on a train every time you get on one, or to come when you are ready for it. There will be some happy days, and there will be some not so happy days - but the key is to know that every happy day is a gift. Learn to be more mindful What do you do when you are feeling a little blue? There are a few things you can do. First, observe the emotion without any judgment. Notice how your body is feeling. Try to stop it from taking control of you. Remember that thoughts are the smallest of energies.